I have questions.
How do you know when you've found the One for you?
Do you know right away?
At what point in the relationship does a person fall in love and not just have a crush on this person anymore?
These questions have been on my mind. I hope someone shares his answers.
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I don't know if I have the answers but I can tell you about how it happened to me. Just take my advice with a grain of salt because, well its not a done deal and I'm very superstitious.
ReplyDeleteIt took me a year to say to "I love you" and I didn't fall all in one swoop, it came gradually. I think how you fall depends upon your personality. I take forever to make decisions and am ubber cynical about love.
How did I know I was in love? When the thought of a future without him became unbearable, when I saw how similar our values were, when the future I had planned for myself as a single woman looked lonley and unfulfilling, (I had never really wanted to marry before)and when his and my ideas blended to make a future we couldn't have, didn't want, without the other. I'd love to see what he looks like when he's old,I never get tired of his company- I'm more crazy about him now then I was when we first started dating. Sorry I ran on, but that's how it feels to me. I hope it helps.
The only sure fire advice I can give you is if you think you're in love-- think, not sure-- then wait, just wait and time more than anything else, will tell you the truth.
can i ask who the lucky guy is?
hey girl its brooke nichols from school alyssa told me to read your blog since i am her relationship counselor sort of so i am here to awnser your questions.
ReplyDeleteyou know that you have found the one when you have that feeling in your stomach you cant live without this person for one second in your life. he is all you think about and he is the one person that you wanna be with 24/7. and you never get tired of their company. i know that it can be confusing someethimes and crazy but it is different for everyone.
whether it comes right away or not is a different thing you just have to wait it out for that some thing take time and you have to be patient it will come to you when the time is right. God will let you know in his own way and his own time. You just have to pray to God and ask him to tell you.
on whether it is a crush or a love felling it all depends on the time and place and what you feel. as i said before it is going to be confusing and stressful but you just have to take time to think and pray about it. you will know and you will love the guy with all your heart when it is the right guy and he will love you back with all his heart just like you do.
hope i helped if you need anything you know where to get me.
brooke, the love counselor
I agree. Thank you. I try to be as realistic as possible, but sometimes I get carried away. I just had some questions and I wanted to hear other people's thoughts about it. Its such an abstract thing and everyone has an opinion about it. Positive or negative. I was curious.
ReplyDeleteGet carried away! Forget realism, forget doubts and second guessing. Just run with it.
ReplyDeleteAnd offense to prayers, Christian types, and any other category someone might fall in to. But I don't personally believe God cares about who we date in highschool, college, or "life." I just hate seeing people relying on prayer, never getting an "answer" and never making a decision. I used to be that way, and I am oh so happier now that I not.
Just my two cents.
Define "love" and "crush".
ReplyDeleteThen decide what the difference is.
A crush is just reacting to some physical or emotional traits that trigger a flag. ! (Alert 99.99) I just triggered an alert.
To be honest, I don't think it's possible to fall in "love" without getting in a deep (mutual, hopefully) relationship with the other person.
It's never as simple as just knowing. I don't really trust my stomach either, all it does is tell me to eat more.
I think that though it may not directly affect God whom we date, it affects us. And if someone introduces something that hurts us, I think he cares.
ReplyDeletePersonally though, I don't think you can know. I mean, if you knew, wouldn't that prove love a little moot?
is it because we can't ever really know? or because we doubt ourselves? or because its the truth or a lie someone whispered into your ear?
ReplyDelete"Come and get some, you moot!"
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to throw that in there.
Brandon-I can't get carried away because it hurts when I'm wrong.
ReplyDeleteYours Truly-I agree that the deep relationship has to be there. A lotta people say, "you just know," but that doesn't satisfy me.