I'm like my dad in that social things do not come naturally to me. I have to think about it and work on it. I mean, I'm not rude or anything, but it's not like I go out of my way to do things for people or spend time with them.
I'm breaking that habit.
I've been battling myself over the years on people just accepting me the way I am or my changing myself to make other people happy. I've learned that there's no one road or choice and I shouldn't have limited myself to that. Really, it takes people accepting me for who I am and my changing some aspects about me to be more personable.
Compromise.
When I was 15, I went in for a psychological evaluation to see if I had ADD (...and I did haha). In my psychological report, I read that I do not "play well with others". What? I can laugh at that now, but back then it was true.
Speaking of psychology, I'm reading this book called
Psycho-Cybernectics by Maxwell Maltz.
It basically says that everyone, from childhood, creates their self-image based on the reactions they get from other people and things they experience in the early stages of life. If people have a negative self-image they'll find things to prove it. An example was if a person failed a class he should say, "I failed math." Instead, he usually says, "I'm a failure." Then he does or finds things that prove his self-image. It can go the same way with a positive self-image. Maltz says that if a person figures out how to change his self-image, he can change his life.
It's a very interesting book and I'll probably blog more about it when I get further into it. I recommend it!